Tuesday, October 22, 2013

173. Attitudes Can Some Time Spoil Behaviour……..




Every individual has a specific set of outline on the events and experiences that occur in his life. He expects and thinks that if the outline that he has, is matched with the events of happening it will bring him happiness. Unfortunately if the events and experiences do not match with his projected outline it will make him feel sorrow. It other words it is the interpretation or judgment of happenings that we perceive to be convenient to us. This outlines are the Attitudes.

Attitude can sometime reflect our feelings like our interest towards some or dislike towards some. These are not much of concern and likewise there are attitudes towards the action which is sensed as procrastination or proactive in an individual. These two types of Attitude are not which stays for long and will seldom affect the mind. But attitude that is much of concern is that which is a major component of personality, in general course of the mind, a fundamental mindset that is with the individual for lifetime.

Attitudes should never be the reason for the individual to be happy or sad, since it will affect the behaviour, and this behaviour on the long run will be the personality of the individual. Attitude is the major attribute that other with whom we communicate try to pick in the first place. It is the attitude in the mental realm that influences the body language. If the mental mood is good then the individual is jovial if there is some problem then he may look grumpy. So attitudes impel behavior which in turn creates our personality. Hence Attitudes should be free from projections of event and likes and dislikes.

Once it so happened that two friend who were college mates met at an airport after some 25 years. The two women started talking about their life in the college and all the good times then. Then their talk shifted from college life to their husband’s profession and then earnings. Both seem to be happy with their husband’s profession and the income.

Now one of the women told she had as son for whom they were seeking alliance and wanted to know about her friends children. She asked, “How about your children???”

The other women said, “I have two children, both are married, and stay very near to my place. My daughter is married to a business man and she is happy in her family. She has in fact all the family members at her finger tips. None in the house will go beyond her words. My son-in-laws does all the household work and my daughter has time to read magazines and watch television. I am happy for her.”

The other women who was listening to this asked, “How about your son???”

To this the women put her glum face and said, “The problem in my house is my daughter-in-law she is a mess she wants my son to dance to her tunes. She wants all of us to obey her orders. My poor son has to work in the office as well as do household work, my daughter-in-law spends most of her time reading stupid novels and watching television. We are having a tough time in the house because of her. There is always a fight with my daughter-in-law and me.”

Attitudes change according to the whims and fancies. If they are nurtured they spoil the behaviour.

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