162. Is Insecure feeling a Cause for a Person to be Possessive???

Insecure feel could devastate the relationship that one is so obsessed with. It so happens that people who lack gratitude, trust, sense of satisfaction cripple their relationship without themselves being aware of the unfolding events. Their lives end up in jeopardy and could be the cause of anxiety disorders. 

Though it is quite normal at time to feel insecure, if such emotions are left unchecked they drain the love out of the relationships. People who are in association with such a person let it be a husband, wife, friend, boss or anybody for the matter would be uncomfortable, irritating, and is very unsure when the relationship would turn bitter. Any relationship for that matter is like holding sand in our hand. If we hold it loose in open palm the sand remains in the hand. The moment we close the hand and try to hold it tight the sand escapes through our fingers. Exactly the same way is the relationship if we hold it light with respect and given freedom to the person, it will remain intact. Instead if it is held too tightly and with possessiveness, then that relationship is lost. 

Where does insecurity come from??? 

Could it be because of possessiveness or jealousy??? 

 No, Insecure feel is the result of lack of self-love and assurance. It does not normally appear to be because of money, looks, or relationship but for lack of self love and self confidence. Those who are not loving themselves would yearn to be loved by others, those who are not sure of their worth would live to get the praise of others. Sometimes the supremacy for the stake and special recognition could also be the reason for insecure feel. This act of pacifying the egos through stakes and recognition is a disease. Fear of losing, not being good enough at work, introvert behaviour could also be the reason. 

What could be the remedy to over come this ghost of insecure feel??? 

The most important exercise is to opening up with all, share the inner fear with the partner. Not to be obsessed with the stakes and recognitions. Learn to live for the present and stop mind reading. The trouble in worrying for the security of the future is that we feel insecure at the moment. It is quite amazing that when we are not sure of tomorrow how could the insecure feel help us today. Accept guidance and try interacting with the inner core that is composed and divine by surrendering and let go of outcomes. Surrenderance and submissiveness teaches us to look at things from the reality point of view rather than the fantasy and imagination point. 

If we feed insecure feeling, one day it can consume us.